Show Yourself How Much You Care...

The other day my daughter came home from school talking about a Valentine fund raiser. The school is selling heart shaped brownies for the children to send their special friends. They can even send them anonymously. Everyone she said was trying to buddy up to make sure to get a brownie. I know this is not nice to presume, but what if your child doesn't get a brownie, what if they don't find a buddy?

Most of us can remember times when we were left out. Maybe everyone else paired off for a dance and we never got a date. Luckily a brownie is easier to produce than a date. It's also easier to use in learning to love and appreciate yourself.

One event was very special to me. I won a small award, not a Nobel prize or anything grand on a world scale, but I wanted flowers. Now my husband is a nice sort of guy, and he would have bought me flowers if I told him I wanted them, or I could have sulked until he read my mind. Get real.

I did something very innovative for me. I bought myself flowers. I didn't spend a lot, just a small bouquet to tell me that I appreciated me. I liked me and I was proud of what I had done. Those flowers felt good. Every time I looked at them I felt good. Now when I think back to that award, what I remember most was that I learned to give myself flowers.

I keep hearing ads for Valentine's Day and every time I do I think about those flowers. I think about all the Valentine's Days I rushed to empty mailboxes and sat alone feeling left out of the world. Valentine's day can be the most unhappy holiday of the year, and I love holidays. On Valentine's Day we all put our emotional feel goods in someone else's lap. We are supposed to wait to be told how wonderful and loved we are

I think it's okay to tell the kids that when that brownie cart comes around buy themselves a Valentine. If you sit around waiting for someone else to tell you how special you are you may wait a long time. I spent more Valentine's Days wishing for Valentines than getting them. If your child learns to do nice things for themselves they won't spend their life waiting. They will certainly feel a lot better eating a brownie they provided for themselves than sitting around watching everyone else eat theirs.

Those flowers I bought myself were some of the best I ever got, because I learned to appreciate myself. Think of the special things you can do for yourself. If you have a special someone, that is a bonus. But, the only person who stays with us from the time we are born until the day we die is our own self. Shouldn't we appreciate that special person too.

Regina Garson

I had visitors sign the guestbook by telling about the special things they do to care for and appreciate themselves. I feel good when I read all the wonderful things they wrote.

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