I am facing a family problem here. My parents do not really talk to each other. They both suspect each other of having an affair outside. My mum always listens to her friend's opinion and always thinks bad about my dad. I sometimes wonder where she gets the information from. As for my dad, he claims that he has a lot of work to do and sometimes uses the excuse of playing golf when he is not at home. I really do not know what is happening.

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I am sorry to hear that your parents feel and behave this way towards each other. The easy way to deal with this is to bring mum and dad together to talk and to have them "trash" things out.

However, my feeling is that there is very much more involved here and I believe that there could be much deep seated hurt & resentment towards each other. If this is the indeed the case, it is advisable to encourage your parents to see a marriage counsellor to help them explore the issues that may be hindering them from reconcilling.

You may also want to help them to better understand each other by offering alternative (positive) interpretations for the the other's actions when you feel that their negative conclusions may not be substantiated.