I'm 14 year-old-girl. As I have been in an all-girl school from Primary school. I have not communicated well with boys.

Until now, I still don't communicate with them, which makes things hard for me at times....what should I do?

JP

Your feeling conscious of boys at this age is very natural. Many people are afraid in interacting with members of the opposite sex at this age, but may not want to admit it.

One useful method that you may want to use in talking with boys is to try to forget that they are "boys". What I mean is that you treat them as people or friends and try not to be conscious that they are different. This may be difficult at first, but when you are able to do this, it makes it much easier for you and the other party involved to feel more comfortable with each other.

Another way to go about this is to have a group of your girlfriends interact with a group of boys. In this way, you do not feel so much pressure in talking and keeping the relationship going as people in the group can take turns to share while the rest of you respond. This takes the pressure out of communication as compared to a one to one basis.

As you have mentioned that you did not attend a co-ed primary school, it is even more natural and understandable that you should feel the way you do. At fourteen years of age, you still have plenty of time and opportunites to interact with members of the opposite sex. Take your time and I am sure that as you mature with the years, you will find it more & more comfortable in talking with the male gender.