I am a 22 years old guy. I am still serving NS. Since I was in secondary school, I was very much curious about sex.

And now in army, there are so many guys who tell me about their sexual experience. This had made me want to try it more. Therefore today I went to a massage salon in ochard. I went there for a massage at the same time I know they will offer sexual service. True enough the girls ask me whether I would like to have her sexual service. I was very high then and agreed to it.

I paid for the service and had my first sexual experience. Immediately after that I felt disgusted, sick and very very guilty.

I am having problem sleeping and I feel very guilty. I wish you could help me get over it.

Thank you

It is natural for someone your age to be interested in sex. It is also natural for you to be aroused by members of the opposite sex.

However, what is important is that you are able to master these urges and take control over them rather than it take control over you. From the experience that you have described, it seems that you are able to realise that what you have done is indeed not right. Sometimes, though very unfortunate, we have to learn several of these lessons the hard way.

You need to come to terms with the reality of what has already happened, and resolve to not let this happen again. Continuing to live in your past is not going to help you live in the present and will therefore logically affect your future well-being. Take time to reflect on what has happened and resolve to "innoculate" yourself from such temptations in the future.

Please see a doctor for testing of the possibility of sexually transmitted diseases (STD) - I assume that you had sexual intercourse with the masseur. If you should sense, experience or notice any unusual developments in your body, especially your genitals, please seek medical treatment as early as possible. For the HIV AIDS virus, it can only be detected after a period of about two months (window period).

This is not meant to alarm you but it is only fair and responsible that you take such measures as there is always a risk of STD in sex with such "persons in the trade".

If you need to talk further on this matter, please make an appointment to see a counsellor. Wesley Counselling Service offers free service for the community and you may contact them at Tel: 3361433.